This is a sort of come back blog. After over a month of exam fever I finally am able to do what I like. Lets see how explosive it gets....
Recent turn of events have got me thinking, what makes us John Rambo in real life??
3. Situations demand so: Many a times we face situations which force us to be stone hearted and just do what's required and get done with it. Not a time for emotions. No one can be blamed for this. People who are expected to take control of the situation are in a state of shock or are busy relieving themselves in the loo out of sheer tension. One has no choice but to take up the responsibility of such people who otherwise claim to be very stable in every situation.
Most of us fall in this category, if not by choice, definitely by force. No harm in being a Rambo in such situations. In fact its the best form of Rambo. But what is really worrying is that this variety needs to be well controlled and categorically reminded that only in such situations one needs to be a Rambo.
As a kid I'm sure many of us have grown up watching this iconic fictional character win over situations almost hypothetical. We loved him for whatever he did, however he did without once thinking of the magnitude of destruction caused. But most importantly, we forget that this guy has no emotions. He just goes through the motions in life like a programmed machine. No time for love, no family (if any) and evidently no life beyond the worn torn fields. Dripping blood smells like fresh flowers to him.
Just a few days back when my granny had a bi ventricular failure my own actions made me think... Am I turning into an unwanted Rambo???? All I did was call out the ambulance and told my other granny it's better she leaves for good (considering she didn't live a life the way it is to be) The other granny too agreed with me. Luckily this angelic friend of mine had the courage to 'kill' the Rambo in me and knock some sense into me saying everything is going to be OK. Just because people suffer we cannot be praying for their demise. Her words coupled with my actions fueled my thoughts to list out possible situations which make us this so called hero. Is it good??? is it bad?? who knows????
1. My past has been hell: Here we have a set of people who have had a miserable past. They have grown up in the most atrocious conditions. Either they have been beaten up as part of their upbringing or they have had to face multiple calamities at different points of time in their lives. We all do sympathize with such people. It has taken a lot of courage on their part to still survive and be what they are today. I salute such people. They teach us what it takes to be tough as steel, absorb pain and move ahead in life.
But sadly, like I mentioned earlier such people become numb to the good things in life over a period of time. They forget their purpose of existence and live a life that is preset to achieve some distant goal which they are not sure of. Since they themselves are unsure of the goals, they take unusual steps to achieve them. They care a damn about their kids, crib about work and lead a life as though the world is pointing daggers at them. A slight turn and you get pierced. Despite knowing their own miseries and terrible past they fail to move out of it when required and make others around them feel, pain is all that's around. Negativity all around.... Their standard dialogue " Just do as told and ask no further questions. I've been through worse". A mechanic shows more "concern" to the machines than these people show to other human beings around them. Wake up!!!!... there's a vast difference between mere survival and living.
 |
| Zero on emotions |
2. Been there done that: This breed is the most unwanted in my opinion. They claim to have done everything under the sun and nothing is new for them. Such people are left with no purpose in life as they have done it all. Instead of "learning" to live, they end up ruining other lives around them. They are so frustrated that they just end up destroying whatever comes their way. Achievements of others mean nothing to them. Be it pain or gain, everything is on a comparative basis. They analyze it in this manner... "Is it better than what I did??? Is it more painful than what I had to go through???"
Every day is just a task for them. They get up, do the job and repeat the process till they collapse. They give unwanted advice to people who don't even seek any. When people around get frustrated with their attitude, it fuels more rage in them and suddenly people make no sense to them. They lose faith in people and lead a lonely life talking to all possible non living items. It's below their dignity to apologize and set things right. Again, no emotions except sorrow to which they become accustomed to over a period of time. A simple line which says "let bygones be bygones" is beyond their understanding. They claim that others treat them to be as expendable as dog poop.
This John Rambo is definitely of no use. We don't need him. He's as dangerous as a misguided missile.
 |
| Daily routine |
3. Situations demand so: Many a times we face situations which force us to be stone hearted and just do what's required and get done with it. Not a time for emotions. No one can be blamed for this. People who are expected to take control of the situation are in a state of shock or are busy relieving themselves in the loo out of sheer tension. One has no choice but to take up the responsibility of such people who otherwise claim to be very stable in every situation.
Most of us fall in this category, if not by choice, definitely by force. No harm in being a Rambo in such situations. In fact its the best form of Rambo. But what is really worrying is that this variety needs to be well controlled and categorically reminded that only in such situations one needs to be a Rambo.
These are the true Rambos who have a stone heart when required and a one that melts with genuine emotions. But one needs to be really careful as it is very easy to drift away and fall into category 2 and eventually category 1.
What is important is that we understand simple human emotions and lead a life worth living and not just go through the motions of it. What Rambos need to understand is that people around them are not as strong as them. They enjoy and cherish the small yet beautiful moments in life. They need to understand that even if their life has been miserable, its best to make another life worth living rather than converting them to another pain baring, emotion and compassion lacking person.
The environment around becomes much more comfortable and joyous when people understand each other and lead a loving, caring and a meaningful life. There is life beyond one's own!!
The environment around becomes much more comfortable and joyous when people understand each other and lead a loving, caring and a meaningful life. There is life beyond one's own!!
